Friday, April 27, 2007

Love and Marriage

Have you ever been so in love that nothing more could be as important? Have you ever felt like you have found that one person who will be "the one"?

I wonder about married couples and if they are really truly happy. I would love to be like that one day, but I do have my doubts it will happen. Many of my blogging friends are happily married. They have a wonderful life. How did it happen?

I have heard so many people say, oh, just wait, the right one will come along. Or, oh, it will happen to you. But will it? Is it for everyone? Am I one of the ones who won't have this kind of life?

Now, some of you may be wondering why the questions. I mean, I have a boyfriend, we are happy. So why the questions? Don't know. Just been thinking about it for the last two weeks.

My kid is living it up at the grandparents' house this weekend. I will be working my ass off this weekend in another zone. That's okay though. It's what I love to do.

Hope you all have a fantastic weekend.


Andfre said...

I am going to a wedding tomorrow. If I find out any answers I will let you know.

After you said my dream was scary I re-read the post and it gave me a shiver. Strange because I felt unaffected by it when I wrote it last night.

Have a good weekend yourself!
I appreciate you Abbagirl74.

Terri said...

Love and marriage; wow that's a deep and wide topic. I am happily married for nearly 15 years and we were together six years before our marriage. I look forward to growing old with my hubby but we've had some rough patches, one bad enough that we separated and almost divorced and the first year and a half were hellish, but there is something to be said in sticking it out, making a decision every day to be committed to each other and rolling with the punches. There will be bad spells but ultimately its the comfort of sharing bad times and good times through your lifetime with this one special person that you love. I'm looking forward to the next 50 years (hopefully!) with my hubs.

kanadians in korea said...

i think if you share the same faith, and laugh at the same things, that you will last forever... but you have to be committed to never divorcing. trent and i had a bible verse inscribed on our wedding rings that says "God hates divorce." it reminds us every time we fight, to stay close and to remember the eternal impact of our words. love you.

austere said...

I hope and pray you find this happiness, abbagirl.

Phelan said...

My husband and I have been together for 11 years come august, 4 years married in October.

We went through hell. We faced drug addictions and the such. We were not happy in the begining, and for the life of me, I don't know what made us stick it out, except that we did love each other. He has been clean for 9 years now, and we have been very happy that entire time.

Good luck!

Anonymous said...

I had a lot of walls up (and a few skewer spikes) when I met my husband. It was important that I had a deep down talk with myself about what I wanted out of life and to come to the realizstion that "this man is not responsible for all the horrible things that past lovers had done, he is his own person".

I know that sounds really simple, but in theory, if you've really has some shit realationships, it's not.

We also have to make a daily commitment to be in a good marriage. This means I just can't run out and buy an expensive item because I want too. We have a shared vision, to own a house, to retire comfortably, etc. If I run around spend a lot of our money, then I'm holding both of us back from our long-term goals.

I also don't understand couples joined at the hip. My husband and I are individuals, we don't have to do everyting together and because we have a solid and communicative relationship, we don't worry about infidelity. We would never hurt the other by doing such a painful and disrespectul manuever to get attention.